Raj's Rule (For the Bathroom at School)

Written by Lana Button

Illustrated by Hatem Aly

Owlkids Books

978-1-77147-340-8

32 pp.

Ages 3-7

August 2020

Rules are often put in place to keep us safe. Some are imposed by others and adopted by everyone, and some are very personal and created to meet our own needs and preferences. The latter is the case for Raj whose reluctance to use the bathrooms at school compels him to adhere to some very strict and strange rules. But, some rules are doomed to be broken.

From Raj's Rule (For the Bathroom at School) by Lana Button, illus. by Hatem Aly

Not unlike a lot of people, Raj is reluctant to use any bathroom other than the one at home. In order to abide by this rule, Raj offers some charming and very practical tips to prevent the need for school bathroom breaks. He avoids drinking at school, not from the water fountain or from juice boxes. He may wash his hands at the sink but quickly and he avoids the water table. 

From Raj's Rule (For the Bathroom at School) by Lana Button, illus. by Hatem Aly

He definitely stays away from the very funny Kyle and avoids distractions and movements that might keep him from sitting still, often squeezing his knees together. But, when a sneeze necessitates a visit to the school bathroom, all his rules are for naught and Raj learns that the outcome is better than he thought.

From Raj's Rule (For the Bathroom at School) by Lana Button, illus. by Hatem Aly

You have to wonder how many people deny themselves the opportunities for happiness because of the fear of the "what ifs." Raj is obviously afraid of something associated with using a public washroom–and nowadays with COVID19, who isn't?–but the distress on his poor little body as he attempts to keep it from its natural functions is apparent. (Doctors would probably advise against this as well.) But Lana Button's gentle text doesn't poke fun at Raj and his predilection. She offers a compassionate, even rational, perspective and allows Raj the opportunity to problem solve his own solutions, both how not to use the bathroom and how to manage when he must use it.  As she has unequivocally accomplished in her earlier books like Willow Finds a Way (2013), My Teacher's Not Here! (2018) and What If Bunny's Not a Bully? (2020), Lana Button is respectful of how young children think, emphasizing their very legitimate struggles with bullies, friends, routines, and change but still giving them the vehicle to find their own solutions. And, as all teachers and parents should know, by allowing children the opportunity to problem solve their own answers, they are encouraging them to accept them.

 

New Brunswick illustrator Hatem Aly, who also created the art for The Proudest Blue: A Story of Hijab and Family (2019), is no stranger to blending lightness with the important messages of authors. He never makes Raj look silly or insignificant, instead making Raj just one of the kids whose issue just happens to be not wanting to use the bathroom at school. It could have been never eating the crusts on bread, or wearing his favourite red socks every day, or carrying a stuffie everywhere. But Hatem Aly has made the adorable Raj, the boy with a bounty of dark wavy hair, big eyes and wish to avoid a public bathroom, just another kid in diverse class of kids of different sizes, colours and abilities. They're boisterous and quiet, impetuous and cautious, and Raj is just one of them.

From Raj's Rule (For the Bathroom at School) by Lana Button, illus. by Hatem Aly

At a time when being vigilant in public is the norm, little Raj is wise to consider how to avoid potential problems by strategizing ways to bypass his school bathrooms. But, more importantly, Raj can still find a way to ease his worries while becoming happier at school, both physically and emotionally, by simply tweaking his rules so they work with his new reality.

The Proudest Blue: A Story of Hijab and Family

Written by Ibtihaj Muhammad with S. K. Ali

Illustrated by Hatem Aly

Little Brown Books for Young Readers

978-0-31651-900-7

40 pp.

Ages 4-8

September 2019

Rites of passage are important in many cultures though the nature of those rites can differ significantly or share commonalities. Many rites include those as a young person enters puberty and adulthood. For Faizah's older sister Asiya, it's the first day she will wear the hijab regularly, including to school. At home, Mama and Faizah are so excited as twelve-year-old Asiya chooses the  brightest blue, "The color of the ocean, if you squint your eyes and pretend there's no line between the water and the sky." But how will their schoolmates react to the princess Faizah sees in Asiya?

From The Proudest Blue, written by Ibtihaj Muhammad with S. K. Ali, illus. by Hatem Aly

When Faizah's classmate asks, she explains that it's a scarf, recognizing that it's like "the sky on a sunny day. The sky isn't a whisper. It's always there, special and regular." But, though Asiya is excited, Faizah is worried for her, especially when some boys laugh at her sister.

From The Proudest Blue, written by Ibtihaj Muhammad with S. K. Ali, illus. by Hatem Aly

Faizah is perplexed. The blue hijab is sky and water, strong and important, and these children do not understand. While Asiya and her friends ignore the taunts of the boys, Faizah remembers all the advice her mother had given them.

Don't carry around the hurtful words that others say. Drop them. They are not yours to keep.

From The Proudest Blue, written by Ibtihaj Muhammad with S. K. Ali, illus. by Hatem Aly

Muslim American Olympic fencer and social justice activist Ibtihaj Muhammad tells a personal story of starting to wear the hijab to school and the bullying that she endured because of the way she chose to express her faith. More importantly, she gives voice to a common experience of being ridiculed for being different or perhaps just not understood. Asiya and Faizah's mother–as did Ibtihaj Muhammad's mother as indicated by her author's note–prepared her daughters well for this rite of passage. Though she cannot control what others think or say, she does strengthen their pride in the wearing of the hijab and understanding for those who might attack from ignorance. With Canadian author S. K. Ali as her co-author, Ibtihaj Muhammad tells her story with charity and honesty and eloquence.

Illustrator Hatem Aly, Egyptian-born and New Brunswick-residing, has a repertoire that ranges from pen-and-ink editorial illustrations to comics but here his digitally-rendered art, textured with ink washes and pencil on watercolour paper, adds a brightness to a child's story. The bullies are depicted as shadows, their faces never seen, appropriate for senseless oppressors. And for Faizah and her family and compassionate classmates? The colours, like that of Asiya's blue hijab, are radiant, filled with warmth and encouragement.

From The Proudest Blue, written by Ibtihaj Muhammad with S. K. Ali, illus. by Hatem Aly

The Proudest Blue, like the hijab of Ibtihaj Muhammad, S. K. Ali and Hatem Aly's story, has depth and consciousness of what it means to be Muslim, what it means to wear the hijab and what it means to be proud of faith and self-expression.